It’s the big one! It’s all about the dress ladies… This was the third item I ticked off the list so to speak and the one I was most nervous about. To begin with I was not a fan of traditional wedding dresses (I know, I know. Crazy!). Like the venue, I thought I would look and feel ridiculous in a big, white meringue dress. Like a little girl playing dress up. I started to make appointments at nearby dress shops really to get it out of the way. Like most people, I wanted to lose weight/tone up/get a tan first but as I’m the world’s biggest procrastinator, those wants dwindled and I went as is. Some I just dropped into to browse the rails but I could never see anything I wanted to even try on (I now know I should’ve tried every type of dress on just to see how they fit on my body as they all look completely different to how they hang on a hanger!).

Image courtesy of Tim Stubbings Photography of Teokath, London

I tried a few on and narrowed it down to a style I thought suited me and a material that I liked. I had seen in particular a dress in a bridal magazine I quite liked and searched the stockists online. Luckily there was one in the next town so I made an appointment for the next week and dragged one of my bridesmaids with me. The sample the shop had was a little ‘worn’ to put it mildly. In fact, part of it had turned grey (no it wasn’t the ombre look…). I tried it on regardless to get a feel for it and when there were tears in my bridesmaids eyes (she had pooh-poohed my other choices), I knew it was top of the list. I didn’t want to order it having only seen a pretty beaten up version in the shop so I searched for other stockists. It seemed the only other place was 250 miles away but coincidentally near my mums house. A few weeks later I made the journey to go and have a look at it. It was lovely to have my mum with me this time as I didn’t want her to miss out on a once in a lifetime experience and I’m glad she was there to offer critique.

When I turned up at the boutique in Chester, they did not have the same dress I had tried on previously but indeed the more recent version. I had a look at it and fell in love. It wasn’t hugely different to the older version but interestingly it had a 38% increase in price. Ahem. The older version was already over my budget but was the only one I had really liked and so had thought I would sacrifice other parts of the wedding in order to have the dress. There was no way my little budget could stretch to a 120% total hike from my original figure. Sheesh! My mum encouraged me to try it on regardless so I did but through gritted teeth. As luck would have it, it was the perfect dress. I am hugely fortunate and lucky that my mum was kind enough to offer to pay the (large) difference between my budget and the cost. It was a strange feeling of somewhere between elatedness and guilt as I loved the dress but felt hugely guilty about just how much it cost. Mr Sparrow and I are also saving for a house and this would be a huge chunk of deposit. I’ve had a few sleepless nights over it but I also figure that if it bothers me that much later down the line I can always sell it.

The dress took 11 months to arrive into the shop (something I wasn’t really aware of so glad I found it early!) and the alterations are still being done on it. My accessories are also yet to arrive so I haven’t actually tried the full outfit on all together. How did your dress purchase go? Plain sailing or full of drama? I’d love to hear your comments.

It was nothing like I imagined but I can’t wait to wear it on the day. Off to look at my iPhone pictures of it now…

Until next time…

Wedding Sparrow (Sara)


  1. Such a gorgeous photo and i really love your article...

  2. A great setting to get that perfect 'meringue' dress for your wedding day ;-)

  3. Can I ask where you found your wedding dress? It's exactly what I'm looking for! Thank you

  4. this is the most difficult moment...when the price dress is higher than the bouget for it :(

  5. The wedding dresses long island ny are kinda expensive as well, though what's great is you can have the gown sooner than you expect!